Hey guys! It’s been a while since I touched on something more personal and this week it felt right to talk a little about being authentic and honest about our lives with you guys. There was a little buzz going around from a guy – whom I don’t want to name and give him more attention. BUT he started a “movement” encouraging others to show the good and bad on social media and to love yourself the way you are. Now let me start off by saying that I agree with him. 100% you should always love yourself – the good, the bad and the always not so easy ugly. HOWEVER, I don’t believe in tearing others down in order to make yourself feel better. Without going down into a crazy rabbit hole about this “movement” he started, and the wrong way (I feel) he went about it – I will explain that he targeted bloggers and made fun of the things that they posted. He even went as far as making fun of a pregnant blogger whom is also extremely fit saying she is making other pregnant women feel bad about themselves by looking the way that she does. It honestly sickened me to see the things he said and did and I really hope he learns from his mistakes. OK, END OF RANT.
What I really wanted to talk about was the ugly truth about comparison and how loving yourself and being comfortable in your skin is SO important. I have may times in my life found myself comparing things to other people. My body – My career – My financial situation – Even silly things like my instagram feed. We live in a world where it is so easy to get distracted by what other people are doing that we forget how important what we are doing is. I am SO GUILTY of this, you guys. One of my New Year resolutions was to learn to love myself more. And not because I don’t love myself but because I know I don’t give myself enough credit for the things I do daily. I work 50 hour weeks, blog (about 30+ hours a week) AND I go to school. Sometimes I wonder how I am able to balance it all and TRUST ME when I say usually one of those things doesn’t get the attention that it deserves. One day I had a break down and was feeling so overwhelmed and I was talking to Kahla about it and how I didn’t feel like I was good enough and she said to me “I wish you could see yourself the way I see you”. I don’t know why, but that really resonated with me. It made me take a step back and realize that even on my bad days I have so much to be proud of. I decided then that I wanted to stop comparing myself to others and if I was surrounding myself with people who made me feel bad or followed people on instagram that made me feel bad about myself than it was ok to cut them out for a while until I felt strong enough to let them back in. Comparison is a little thief who can steal your self confidence and WE should both try our hardest to not let it. So my challenge to you is – If there is something or someone you keep comparing yourself to, can you cut it out of your life? Can you take the time DAILY to remind yourself that you are amazing JUST THE WAY you are and that even though we see tiny glorified snippets of other peoples lives it doesn’t mean our life isn’t just as beautiful. Also, I want to end on the note that Kahla and I try to be honest and authentic with you guys and TRUST ME when I say the Behind The Scenes isn’t always as pretty as the little square box.
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